2019 has been an extremely challenging year for my family and I. This year made me question who I am, what I want, where I want to go, and who I want in my life. With all these questions coming towards me all at once it made me mentally hit rock bottom. This past week, I took some time away from home to reset my mind, body, and soul. During my time away, I had the opportunity to reconnect with two girlfriends of mine, who I haven’t genuinely spoken to in 5 years. It’s crazy how time flies by and how much a person can grow in just a few years. When I met up with them, it was like I was only gone for a split second. We were still the same old silly college girls who loved to giggle about the most random things, but we were different in a good way. That is when I knew that they will be in my life for the long run.
Before I move along with why I think having a strong group of girlfriends is important, let me give you a little back story to my own personal experience with girlfriends before college. Growing up, I was surrounded by strong women, but it felt more like a competitive environment to see who would be the best at the end of the race. This is why I was always cautious around girls growing up until I went away for college. College was where I met the most loving, and supportive group of girls that made me feel worthy, and confident. I have never felt ‘friendship love’ where friends would do anything for each other even if not blood related or expecting anything in return. These girls did more for me than most of my family members would ever do, especially at a time of vulnerability. Even though I was finally given the opportunity to connect with these wonderful ladies on a deeper level, growing up with hurtful relationships caused bad memories to resurface where I pushed them away.
Fast track 5 years later, I continue to wonder why I was still unfulfilled after having a wonderful boyfriend, strong family, and good group of friends (mix of guys and girls). It wasn’t until a recent family situation hit that I realized I needed my girlfriends, whom I have always considered as my sisters. Let’s be honest, my boyfriend, family, and group of friends can only do and understand so much. When you are with your favorite girlfriends there is a spark that you can’t find anywhere else. You get one another without having to say or do too much.
So why is it important to have a strong group of girlfriends? They are your wolf pack until the very end. Through thick and thin they understand those indirect and direct cues that most boyfriends or husbands don’t get. I wouldn’t be half of who I am today if it wasn’t for my girlfriends. They continue to love me for me and cheer me on when I feel like I’m all alone. They provide me with a special kind of strength that other people in my life cannot give me. As someone who is the oldest child in my family, I have never experienced having an older sibling and these girls care for me like I am their little sister. They understand why I feel a certain way towards other people in my life and free me from past feelings that I can’t overcome on my own. Overall they are stronger and better versions of myself that I aspire to be one day.
Thank you so much for reading! Have a wonderful weekend!