2019 has been an extremely challenging year for my family and I. This year made me question who I am, what I want, where I want to go, and who I want in my life. With all these questions coming towards me all at once it made me mentally hit rock bottom. This past week, I took some time away from home to reset my mind, body, and soul. During my time away, I had the opportunity to reconnect with two girlfriends of mine, who I haven’t genuinely spoken to in 5 years. It’s crazy how time flies by and how much a person can grow in just a few years. When I met up with them, it was like I was only gone for a split second. We were still the same old silly college girls who loved to giggle about the most random things, but we were different in a good way. That is when I knew that they will be in my life for the long run.
Before I move along with why I think having a strong group of girlfriends is important, let me give you a little back story to my own personal experience with girlfriends before college. Growing up, I was surrounded by strong women, but it felt more like a competitive environment to see who would be the best at the end of the race. This is why I was always cautious around girls growing up until I went away for college. College was where I met the most loving, and supportive group of girls that made me feel worthy, and confident. I have never felt ‘friendship love’ where friends would do anything for each other even if not blood related or expecting anything in return. These girls did more for me than most of my family members would ever do, especially at a time of vulnerability. Even though I was finally given the opportunity to connect with these wonderful ladies on a deeper level, growing up with hurtful relationships caused bad memories to resurface where I pushed them away.
Fast track 5 years later, I continue to wonder why I was still unfulfilled after having a wonderful boyfriend, strong family, and good group of friends (mix of guys and girls). It wasn’t until a recent family situation hit that I realized I needed my girlfriends, whom I have always considered as my sisters. Let’s be honest, my boyfriend, family, and group of friends can only do and understand so much. When you are with your favorite girlfriends there is a spark that you can’t find anywhere else. You get one another without having to say or do too much.
So why is it important to have a strong group of girlfriends? They are your wolf pack until the very end. Through thick and thin they understand those indirect and direct cues that most boyfriends or husbands don’t get. I wouldn’t be half of who I am today if it wasn’t for my girlfriends. They continue to love me for me and cheer me on when I feel like I’m all alone. They provide me with a special kind of strength that other people in my life cannot give me. As someone who is the oldest child in my family, I have never experienced having an older sibling and these girls care for me like I am their little sister. They understand why I feel a certain way towards other people in my life and free me from past feelings that I can’t overcome on my own. Overall they are stronger and better versions of myself that I aspire to be one day.
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Happy Monday! I’m starting off the work week with my favorite work outfit at the moment. It consists of my favorite colors AND a style trend I’ve been obsessed with lately!
Puffy sleeves is a style trend that isn’t going anywhere. I love the strong, feminine structure the sleeves project around the shoulder areas. It’s the perfect way to live out your princess, fashion dreams in a more modern way. Also how cute is the tan and pink color combo?! I mean I’m obsessed! By now, I’m sure that it’s pretty obvious that I love a neutral, feminine look for everything I wear. The top is currently on sale so make sure to grab one before it’s all sold out!
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A subtle metallic style piece is one of my favorite ways to slightly spruce up an everyday work outfit. It gives that shimmer without being too much in your face. I thrifted this light pink metallic top from thredUP. The original price was $24.00 and I bought it for $11.99. I love the pink with the cream dress pants because it’s a classy color combo that won’t have HR chasing you down the hall. Also, the sleeves are skin tight, which kind of feels like spanx for the arms!
My number one rule for wearing metallics is to not let it overpower the work outfit. Even though you may want to have it be the star of the show, sometimes it can come off as tacky. It should be a fun add-on, not a screaming piece that takes the attention away from the entire outfit.
It is often a struggle trying to figure out a style outfit for work. One that will always be in your favor is a pant suit! The two-piece matching set continues to be a thriving trend from corporate to street style outfits. What I love about pant suits are the different forms and functions it comes in. You can wear it with a more masculine taste with the shoulder pads or add a feminine touch to it with fun floral prints. Pant suits are being redesign to cater to fashionistas who love wearing shorts or skirts over pants.
I thrifted this Ann Taylor pant suit for $20! If you want to hop on the pant suit trend wagon without paying over $100, definitely check out your local thrift store. You may be surprise on the style finds you’ll score.
For this look I wanted to add a feminine touch, which I did so by adding a beret and colors like red and pink. I love mixing different style elements to create an outfit story of my own. Pant suits can be styled in both a professional and casual way. I went with a more professional route adding a bow-tie blouse and heels. If you are more of a casual gal, a white t-shirt and sneakers would definitely be just as cute!
90s style continues to be a trend and there is one I am quite obsess with — dad sweaters! According to the internet, the “dad style” is referred to as the comfy, retro-looking style, as if it has been worn for years. This pretty much sums up my entire wardrobe. I love to shop, but I don’t buy everything I eye-ball. Instead, I purchase timeless pieces that I know I’ll wear for years to come. You can check out my ‘4 Tips from a Smart Shopper’ post on tips to shop for that timeless wardrobe.
What I love about my dad sweater: it’s comfy, soft, and neutral! This is one of my favorite causal looks to flaunt. It’s the perfect, easy street style outfit without any effort. I love the neutral tones and little touches of gold details.